Want

This position looks like a fever dream

This is the most cursed one on the sub so far

I thought this was gonna be a post about the perfect Armored Core 😞

Cringe

Now downvote me to hell and then ask an admin delete my comment for being transphobic

Cringe

And they didn't say we shouldn't have any teams, they said teams not be divided by sex.

Is it hard? I've built several PCs and repair seems like a good line of work for me, but I know nothing about the individual components of the parts

If a gender diverse person tells me that their gender changed, then their gender changed.

The problem is that you're assuming the past gender of trans women categorically.

But to say that the only way for trans people to be is the way you perceive them to be

I am quite explicitly not saying this.

You said:

She wasn’t born a man. Trans women don’t “become” women. They stop hiding the fact they are

I'm trying to tell you that this claim is not just wrong, but it's a harmful over-generalization. I was not a girl for the first ~12-16 years of my life, and that's why I'm telling you our identities (past and present) are ours to determine, not yours. I was a boy, I did become a girl. I was comfortably cis for a long time, but things changed as I grew up.

Reading this stuff today only serves to drag those anxieties back up, because if we assume your claim is true then I either wasn't a boy back then, or I'm not a trans woman now. I have to sit here and think about how you're wrong, and why trans people don't have to have always been trans in order to transition and be valid.

That's what motivated me to respond to you. Whether or not you're willing to grapple with the idea that you may be hurting people is your prerogative, I'm just telling you those claims have done harm to me in the past and may be harmful to others now, specifically young cis people.

Different people use different words about their transition, and I think you're imposing your own experience onto others. To say that trans women categorically weren't men in the past totally invalidates how I have always described my transition. I don't share your experience, and I don't describe my past self the way you seem to think I should.

I was comfortable with my gender, and I don't think it was invalid for me to have identified as a boy. That's not who I am now, but that doesn't invalidate my identity for the first 16 years of my life. And I think if speaking, behaving, or filling the social role of a male doesn't make it valid to say that I used to be a boy, then that feels invalidating to everything I thought made me a woman. :/

But I think all of this is heavily philosophical and subjective, so I'm not saying your feelings are wrong either. But to say that the only way for trans people to be is the way you perceive them to be is not just silly, it runs the risk of invalidating everyone else who doesn't share your feelings on the matter. Our identities are our own to express, not yours.

Yeah those things might be healthy but I don't see how it's relevant to this discussion....

It doesn't seem to work, at least on my instance (lemm.ee)... I just tested it through this post which links to this thread, but it navigated me to lemmy.nl from lemm.ee

Any plans to make it easier to interact with links to other instances?

The QoL value to automatically open links to other instances inside my current instance would be enormous.

Thank you!

Big true. I was telling some rando in Overwatch that I liked wearing my mask/apron at work during the pandemic because customers constantly mistook me for a woman, and that gave me a lot of confidence.

She said "but... you're cis? I don't know any cis people that say things like that." And then my whole worldview shattered, and everything made so much more sense🫠

How can I open that link from my own instance?

Mine defaults to Hot, but I still get this...

ehams

This was 1000% written by an AI 🤦‍♀️

At least we agree that was a big cope. Your seething fuels me