I used to be really into cosplay and the cosplay community and these kinds of questions about makeup and skin color would come up regularly. And without fail, the consensus always ends up being that it's a bad idea. The rule tends to be that you shouldn't change your skin color unless it's a fantasy color like purple, green, etc. It very likely will be offensive to someone. If you're okay with offending people, that's your choice to make. But if you do this, especially at a convention or if you post it online, there will very likely be people who are bothered by it. The fact that you felt the need to ask usually means that there will be at least a few people bothered by this.

This is a bit of an atypical situation though since you're black and you're portraying the character as black. You're not portraying a different race than your own. I think that's what bothers most people. Especially if it's white people mimicking a different race.

But although this isn't mimicking a different race, it is mimicking a real skin condition that people can be born with and it can be a struggle for them. People may see that as insensitive to their struggle.

Personally, I don't think your costume idea is a major offense, and you probably won't get too much backlash for it, especially considering that you are portraying yourself as your own race. But some people will definitely see it as an offense. If you don't post it online, and you're not going to a huge convention, it might not be an issue for you at all.

But if I was a person with vitilligo, I might be a lot more upset by it, especially considering that the character is a horror character meant to be scary to look at. Imagine having this disorder and running into someone at a convention who is wearing the thing you're insecure about to look scary. It might be a bit hurtful and make them feel worse about their condition if it's something they struggle with or have been bullied for.

Unrelated to your issue, but I saw another comment in this thread saying that portraying black characters as a cosplay is different than doing Vaudeville-style blackface, but most people in the cosplay community would disagree with that. Nobody has a problem with people playing characters who are a different race than the cosplayer, but the consensus tends to be that you shouldn't change your skin color to do it. It's heavily discouraged. "I can't take off my race at the end of the day" is something I've heard from black cosplayers a lot when this discussion comes up.

I've seen white people cosplay black characters in full makeup at conventions and it doesn't go well. A white woman cosplaying Michonne From The Walking Dead in full makeup was the talk of a con I went to once. Lots of "oh my god, did you see that? Why would she think that's a good idea?" Changing skin color makeup is definitely a big deal in the cosplay community, and a lot of people have zero tolerance for it, even for this kind of thing.

Anyway, this has gotten very long. I'm not going to tell you what I think you should do, but I wanted to share my experiences with this. I don't think your intentions are hurtful. But if you choose to do the costume, you need to be okay with the fact that it will very likely offend or be hurtful to some people who see any skin tone changing as completely unacceptable. Consider where you'll be wearing it and the kind of people who might be there and make a decision from there. I don't think it's really very offensive, but I'm a white woman and I don't have vitiligo so I can't speak for everyone. I have a few mixed feelings on the issue, because it's complicated. But personally I would rather avoid doing something potentially hurtful, even if it's unlikely to happen, than risk upsetting someone or making them feel bad about themselves because of what I chose to do.

I hope that helps you make your decision, and I wish you good luck no matter what you decide.

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I have an LG TV too, and I use a Steam Link for this. I think they're hard to find now though. I'm not sure if there is another way, but I haven't found one if there is.

As a woman who is bothered by the "females" thing, "female humans" doesn't sound bad to me. It's because "female" is used as an adjective here. It's the same reason "black women" sounds fine, but "blacks" sounds bad. It's reducing someone to their gender only, as if they're not humans, too. It feels otherimg.

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It looks like the Sync app, which is what I use. It does have ads but my VPN blocks them so I never see them unless I turn it off.

This also feels like it's implying some transphobic stuff, while also trying to paint the dems as mentally ill. "They don't know what gender they are, now I guess they don't know what race they are either!"

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I'm not saying cats never do weird things, and the cat in this picture may be perfectly fine. But if my cat were doing this, I would take them to the vet to make sure because it could be a symptom of something serious. That's all I'm saying.

I think some people just want to look at cute photos of cats without thinking about negative things. I can understand that. But if I posted a photo of my cat exhibiting what could be a symptom of a serious problem that I wasn't aware of, I would want someone to tell me. I know OP said this is a repost, but I still think it's important for anyone who loves their cats to be able to tell if something is wrong. This doesn't look like normal cat behavior to me.

Not sure if this is your photo, but what this cat is doing could be a sign of a serious medical problem. If this is your cat, I would get this floofer to the vet ASAP.

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Are you dealing with the ADHD meds shortage in the US too? I'm hoping it gets sorted out before I get fired.

When I learned some people can't watch something with subtitles I was so confused, because ADHD auditory processing issues mean I really can't hear without subtitles. If I don't have subtitles on my mind wanders off without me and I have to keep rewinding because I missed something. I remember buying a ticket to Pan's Labyrinth in theatres a long time ago and being baffled when the person in the ticket booth warned me that it had subtitles. Took waaaay too long for me to get diagnosed.

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I'm so glad some of my ideas were useful! Let me see what I can add here. Of course everyone is different, and since she's inattentive type and I'm combined type some things may vary for her but I'm sure there is some overlap in our experiences.

So this part gave me some ideas:

When I have tried to help my putting her things away, it never seems to end well. Either I end up putting them somewhere that makes sense to me but not her, or I ask her what to do with it and it feels like I'm judging/attacking her.

I went through a similar phase (seeming to like cluttered spaces) but I eventually realized it's not the clutter that I want, I actually hate the clutter. It's having the items I need visible and easily within reach. You could try looking at where she's regularly leaving certain items, and try to find a better way to organize them close to where she's leaving them. For starters, something I've been doing is to sort things into bins I can just throw things into. I get lots of cheap bins from Dollar Tree for this. For example, just a bin for makeup stuff, a visible utensil holder for kitchen utensils I use frequently that stays on the counter, a bin for just the skin care stuff I use at night and a different one for skin care stuff I use in the morning, etc. A bin I can just yeet things into without thinking too much. Even if the way it's sorted seems somewhat irrational, having an easy way to sort things helps and I don't lose items as much. As another example, when I'm folding laundry, I can't usually do it in one go, and I'll throw smaller items (socks, washcloths, etc) onto my dresser to fold. I lose interest in folding, and end up with a pile of these items all over my dresser. So my solution is to put a bin on my dresser I can throw them into, and even though it's a bit messier than I'd like, it's realistic to my usual behavior and minimizes the mess. Being realistic with organizing and trying not to blame myself for not organizing the same way most people do has helped minimize the clutter a bit. Do most people have a sock bin on their dresser? Absolutely not. But ADHD is a type of neurodivergence, we don't think or behave like the average person. Instead of trying to fight a behavior, you learn to work within it, even if it's a little weird to others. I think of it like an accessibility thing. People who use wheelchairs have certain equipment around their homes to make things easier for the way they need to live. I have weird bins because my brain is chaotic. Sorta similar, but with a mental disorder instead of a physical one.

So my suggestion would be to look at the behaviors she is the most consistent with and try to make those as intuitive as possible without having to search for items. I think of my brain as having a health bar, so there is a limit to how much I can handle in a day and minimizing small hits (making decisions and looking for lost things especially use my HP) will keep my HP from going into the red. If I have to open cabinets (weirdly distracting for some reason lol) or go to another room for items I need for a task I tend to lose focus and forget what I was trying to do. Those are hits to my HP. Keeping needed items visible and within reach helps a lot and I can get more done.

I'd like to think I'm pretty good about this - my wife works so hard and I try to remind her of that and thank her for it as well, instead of just taking it for granted.

This is very important! I feel like I'm being judged and criticized all the time for things I'm trying my best to control but can't. Especially at work. Having a supportive partner who makes an effort to understand how I think and feel, even if they're not always perfect at it, is more helpful than you might realize!

Over the weekend she had a number of things she wanted to do but was having trouble getting started, so I told her to just pick one, do it, and to try not to feel bad about not doing the others. We both are trying to be kinder to ourselves in that way, as we both tend to push ourselves and feel guilty when we don't get as much done as we'd like.

This way of thinking is great! Not being judgemental and being kind to yourself helps a lot. This is a good start, but I do have a few notes on the techniques here, just based on how I feel personally. Since she has executive dysfunction too, maybe this will apply. So, my partner has tried a similar thing with me, and sometimes it locks me up if he says "just pick something and don't worry about the other stuff." The "just pick something" messes me up a bit, now I'm thinking about all of the things I could do and I can't pick one because maybe the other things are more important? He said the word "worry," should I be worrying though? Which task is most important? If I start doing one of the things, all I can think about is "should I be doing the other thing?" And this leads to me doing nothing at all. I would love to not feel guilty about the things I'm not doing, but it's not really a rational feeling and I can't switch it off even if I think it's silly.

When I'm in this kind of situation, it helps if my partner is what I would call gently pushy. By this I mean, don't try to force her to do things, but help her decide based on what you think would be best for her and would make her happiest, and facilitate her decision. This is not telling her what to do, it's helping her reach the decision she would want to make if she could think straight. Keep things very simple and make more statements than questions. Instead of "do you think you might want to do X?" which is going to cause me to start thinking "do I want to do X? Should I do X?" you could try "So you said you were thinking about doing X, I think that would be a good idea. Let's do that!" Doing that will help me focus on one task and be more excited about that task instead of thinking about the things I'm not doing, which is a lot of the problem with executive dysfunction for me. Not feeling confident about my decisions makes it hard to focus on what I decided on.

So to expand on something I mentioned in the last comment, let's say I've told him I want to do a lot of things and I can't decide on one, so he might think "she'd probably feel better if she got some painting done." So he'll say "I'd love to see you do some painting" and he'll help me set up my painting stuff. Having it all ready in front of me makes it so much easier to get started and if he doesn't mention the other options, they're less likely to get stuck in my head and trip me up when I'm trying to focus on the task I've chosen.

I have found it helps to have my I find my mental energy gets limited for that kind of stuff too thought, sometimes. Aren't we quite a pair? LOL

That's completely understandable, you're human too and your issues are important too, even if hers are more severe at times. What matters is that you're making an effort to learn and communicate better. You're supporting each other and listening to each other, and it sounds like you're doing a great job with those things! Not everything you do will be the perfect thing every time, and that's okay. We're not trying to be perfect here, just to function better overall. Make sure you take care of yourself and your mental health too!

I really hope she decides to try counseling and/or meds. If she's reluctant to try medication, I have a few supplements that help me, such as L-tyrosine to help with dopamine-related symptoms and alpha GPC for focus. ADHD meds have been on a national shortage, so I've used these to get through when I can't get my medication.

Anyway, I edited this to reduce my run on sentences and parentheses abuse as much as possible but it was still super long lol! I hope at least some of it was helpful though! I still struggle with my ADHD a lot, and I definitely still have a lot of work to do, but these are a few things I've learned that help me cope with it. If I can help you with anything else don't hesitate to ask!

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